BYJ (&QFMR): Day 39 – Have Someone Else Make a Resolution For You.

Hi everyone! 😚

I believe I’m in a better mood than the last few days and I’m ready to get back to making myself a more beautiful person – translated as “I want to be a badass!” 😎🌹💪🌻😍😁💟👗👜

Today’s BYJ task involves asking a loved one to make a resolution for me. The author suggests asking a loved one, but I’m somewhat removed from people in real life, so I thought I’d ask one of you! The author indicated that it is interesting to see your behaviors through someone else’s eyes and to attempt a c hsnge based on what they see. The author mentioned she asked her husband who only wanted her to cleanup her dish from breakfast, instead of leaving it for later. She felt it was an easy change and took care of it.

So, I ask all of you, my wonderful readers, if there is one resolution you’d like me to make, what would that be?

QFMR: Why do some people have Faith and some people do not?

I follow a couple of bloggers that are wonderful people – although, I don’t know them personally, I really enjoy the things they post. These women, I follow, discuss their faith and are unashamed to show their faith when writing. Certainly, they have struggles, but the joy they have when dealing with these struggles is amazing.  I told one of them today, in fact, that I am amazed by her faith.

I don’t have that faith. I lost it (R.E.M. is now playing in the recesses of my mind). I felt like I had it at one time, but I lost it. I can’t find it. The essence of this blog is horribly stricken with an obvious need for a Higher Power, but I can’t do it…I don’t understand myself, let alone faith.

But tonight, I’m questioning – I’m not tortured like I have been, before, but I am deeply in need of this answer:


Why do some people have faith and some do not?

Where does faith come from?

QFMR: How do you compare yourself to other women (or guys)?

So, I posted, today, about women comparing themselves to other women.  Us women (is it okay that I throw myself into the mix?) do this a lot, I’m afraid. And after seeing a follower’s comment it made me wonder all the different ways we might compare ourselves to other women.

Some of things I compare are:

  • shape of lips
  • bone structure (I really don’t like mine and it’s tough for me)
  • shoes she’s wearing
  • hell, who am I kidding…I look at her entire outfit!
  • my booty (& boobs too)
  • her hair style

Granted, these are probably only a few of the major ones. but it made me think:


Question For My Readers:

In what ways do you ladies compare yourself to other women?

(Guys can answer for themselves, but this was due to my earlier post)

QFMR: What advice would you give me on being in limbo?

It’s not easy for me to ask for advice. I constantly feel like I’m after attention, but I want to change my life.  I can’t seem to find the answers within myself, and after I have calmed down and found a way to regain some slight balance, I am now at the point where I begin to question everything again.  So, I’m reaching out and asking for advice. There are many of you that have been following me for quite some time and there are a few that are new-comers, but I want some of you to be totally and brutally honest with me and I’ll ask, because I can’t come up with the answer:


What direction do you think my life should go?

QFMR: What are your greatest accomplishments?

Although, not unheard of, it has been rare in the past several years for me to wake up in a good mood.  Today is a day that I woke up in a good mood and I think there are a number of factors contributing the mood.  But today, my mind is set on accomplishments – I remember a time, where I had a clear mind and had definitive answers when asked the question, “What are your top five accomplishments in life?”  For me, it’s a bit of a struggle now to recognize those, but I knew what they were at one time. I know that each day for me, feels like an accomplishment, so I would claim my current top five accomplishments as:

  1. Monday
  2. Tuesday
  3. Wednesday
  4. Thursday
  5. Friday!

Of course, I’m having a little tongue-in-cheek fun today, but it’s fun to think about.  On a serious note, I’d like to interact with all of you and ask you this question:


What are your three greatest accomplishments?


QFMR: What do you suggest…?

I spent a great deal of my time today thinking about my inner woman – the one I’m calling Stephanie – and I have engaged in some conversations via email with some people and it got me thinking about exploring my femininity in a more intimate manner. And what I mean by intimate is to gain a deeper understanding of myself. The only thing I can think of is to BE more feminine.

So, I ask you, my readers:


If I wanted to delve into myself a little deeper and pull out Stephanie in her feminine glory, what suggestions might you all have that I can expand on my femininity?

Please feel free to tell me in the comments section, below.

QFMR: Kissing – Best and worst?


Today I read someone else’s post about kissing a guy. She described it as less than ideal and it made me think about the ways people kiss – and what makes them good or bad.  I know we have all experienced the worst and the best, from our own points of view, but do you care to share your experiences?

For me, being bisexual, I have had the chance to kiss both men and women (or boys and girls, when I was a lot younger.) I can honestly say, the best kiss I received from a guy, I spoke about in this post here.  The worst kiss I ever got from a guy, was horrible because he smoked and his breath just smelled bad. I didn’t kiss him for very long, as you can imagine.

The worst kiss I ever had with a woman, was probably in high school, I went on a date with a girl I liked.  She and I ended the date and I moved into kiss her and she through her arms around me and shoved her tongue in my throat…I thought I was going to suffocate. I mean, I was a little intimidated by the size of her tongue and how aggressive she was.  The best kiss from a woman, I have ever had, I can honestly say was with my wife.  I don’t think we stopped kissing for like a week straight, after meeting.  She was a phenomenal kisser and was very enticing.

So, now my question(s) for you, dear readers:


1.)    Who was your best kiss with and why was it so good?

2.)    Who was your worst kiss with and why was it so bad?