So, I’ve decided to re-engage in my journey to inner beauty and continue the Beautiful You Journal that I began oh so long ago. I began it this little adventure almost a year ago, but took a serious break – which is obvious based on the fact that I’m only on Day 26 and it is intended to cover an entire year. So, don’t be surprised if I hit like 4 or 5 of these posts per day, until I kinda put a dent in this constant obstacle I present myself in the form of self-deprecation. After speaking to a friend yesterday, via email, I think I’m at a place where I can accept that I may never actually BE female, but it doesn’t mean I can’t embrace that inner-woman that I have become rather attached and affectionate towards. The reality is, of course, I feel good about myself when I explore this feminine inner being I believe I have. I’m tired of feeling like crud, and if this does it for me and I’m not hurting anyone, who am I to question it? I like Stephanie and I want to like me, as well. Granted, there are some implications about it all that I still have to work through, but life should be an adventure or else it would be BORING!
So, as I continue, let me talk about the next step in the process of being a more Beautiful me: Ending the Rivalry. The book titled “Beautiful You” has this little journal exercise for each day that I am really finding a lot of positivity in doing. Today’s post is about Ending the Rivalry with other women. It discusses the TV show “The Bachelor” and how the rivalry between the female contestants has become our source of entertainment. The Real Housewives franchise on BravoTV was the first thing that came to mind for me – those women are completely vile to one another (And I would be lying, if I said I didn’t take some guilty pleasure in watching a couple of the series shows). The author if this book discusses the very real possibility that our own insecurities tends to create this innate desire to “size up of other women” – and I would have to agree. For some reason, we tend to notice someone we feel is prettier than us, skinnier than us or whatever. In fact, I literally alluded to this yesterday (Although, I was not being mean, I can literally admit I’m a bit jealous that I can’t BE as wonderful as I see this woman to be). The author expresses that there is a tendency to compete with other women based on, almost in her exact words, “we see ourselves as less than or more than another woman”.
So, she goes on to explain that the best thing that suits us is not competing. To simply see ourselves as just being who we are, but try to see other women as “potential allies”. She goes on to express that when we feel that urge to size-up another woman we should turn that energy into trying to get to know the other woman to learn something about her. She says, this will “realease yourself from the need to feel inadequate or anxious.”
I really liked this post, and although I have never really felt like competing with other women – mostly because I have always felt that I could never measure-up – I have felt jealous, inadequate and certainly anxious. I fall into that trap of what an ideal look, image, and attitude I should have. I liked one thing in this section of the book that really stood out for me: “The truth, quite simply, is that we are who we are.”