Yesterday, I mentioned an argument I had with my wife. Today, I’m getting a message from her that is not clear, insinuating that our marriage is now done and she is ready to move on. I asked her to be direct, because I’m not very good at reading between the lines, but I have not heard from her. We have been arguing for the past 4 months about one issue: a job I was offered that was in another state. We are not in an ideal situation, but I feel like it is the best option we have for the time being and she feels like I don’t care anything about her or her point of view. I’m not going to go into details, because there is so much to say about this topic and ultimately, it leads into so many other issues in our marriage, it’s become a 20 year long battle (Trust me, I am not exaggerating).
The point is, I was told, though unclearly, that we are finished and that I need to move on and she will do the same.
And 3 main feelings ran through me in an instant: pain, anger, and relief.
I’m choosing to not react to any of it, because I can’t tell if it’s a manipulation or authentic. So, I’m simply doing the things I believe to be the best options, right now.
But, my question for all of you:
Have you ever felt emotionally confused – like unsure what you are SUPPOSED to feel?
How did you handle it?